April 29, 2013
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SEX
I know I JUST wrote a post, but I want to take a poll of sorts.
Is sex reserved for just love? Or can one have sex without love? Is it a problem if someone has a string of one night stands? Is there a line between hollow sex without emotion of the person, and if you are interested in the person, but not in love?
I would be interested in hearing your thoughts..
I personally think that there’s something wrong if someone has sex without at least interest in something more. Sex isn’t sacred, but it is very intimate, sharing a part of yourself that not everyone should see. I don’t think there has to be love, exactly..but something more than just “I just met you so let’s fuck.”
Comments (17)
I think it’s all good as long as it’s mutual.
What he said^ Personally I don’t usually sleep with someone just for the sake of it, but there are times that I have wanted to. I just prefer it with someone I care about.
I can’t imagine having sex with a woman and not feeling intensely about her as a person. Then again, I’m easy that way.
Alright Alright. I will have a one night stand with you.
You could have been more subtle.
I think as long as both people are honest about why they are having sex and they use the proper protection, it is ok.
I won’t share my personal thoughts on sex, but I’ll keep checking this to read other peoples’ opinions.
sex = sex and love = love. You don’t have to love a person to have sex with them.
I think if you want to have purely recreational sex, make it gay sex. Then we don’t end up with “accidental” people.
As far as personal satisfaction, sex seems like something that can just be purely recreational, but I think if we use it that way, most of us end up feeling like we’ve cheated ourselves. We don’t always realize it as first, but I think it ends up being like we just announced our deepest, most private feelings — and then nobody cared. It fosters the idea of using people for our own pleasure and not seeing them as whole people.
If it is just sex you want then hire a prostitute. If it is love you want, that’s going to take a bit more work. That’s my two cents.
i have tried to have sex without feelings and it just was not satisfying for me. i have to have feelings for “her” to have sex. to me it is just more than the act, it is emotions. but i know some people they just need to get the release of sexual tension and have no feelings at all. to each their own.
@TheTheologiansCafe - LMAO, oh dear oh dear oh dear *head in hands, shaking back and forth*
@lanney - Recreational / Gay Sex . . . I LIKE IT!!! LOL
I certainly would not have sex with someone I just met, no matter if I have been chatting with them online for a while. I have to have some sort of connection. Take my GFs hubby for example, I’ve known him since he is married to my best friend, for like eight years now. . . . perhaps I shouldn’t get into this here.
Why don’t you talk about your sex life.
I guess it depends entirely on the person. For some, sex is meant for just the one person in their lifetime who is their spouse, and for others, sex is casual and fun and something to enjoy with someone new every weekend (or whatever). I’m in between, I’ve never had casual sex but I’m ok with sex within a relationship. I think the bottom line is it’s all good if it’s consensual between adults – do what you want with your body and always try not to judge others’ choices
I wrote a post about this very topic, if you would like to read it:
http://mcscarry.xanga.com/771917611/three-dimensional-relationships/
Until this year, I had never had a one night stand. I knew I had to have one to better understand that whole sexual dimension that people talk about.
You should read my post and tell me what you think.
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ok