September 1, 2010
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Who ARE these people?!
I’ve never gone through my friends list and deleted people. On the somewhat-new home page, where they put nine random friends? Yeah, half the time (or more) I don’t recognize these people. Did they fall off the face of xanga? Do they post at times I’m not online?
I don’t even remember adding them sometimes. Are these the people that added me? Ones that read my posts but rarely/never comment??
If I tried going through all my friends, it would take me forever to get reacquainted with everybody.
I tell you what. If you comment this post, I will go to your page and get to know you again. Unless I know you very well, I will comment the latest post. Unless I’ve already done that…. then I don’t know what.
Do you see people on your friends list that you don’t know, or don’t remember adding??
Comments (107)
The same thing happens with me. I am just too lazy to clear the list.
oh I have a lot of those, but then I go through spurts of not posting on xanga. I’d like to, but I don’t feel like I have anything productive to share. No venting is needed or anything so I just don’t post or visit really. But I’m starting to come back and read everyone again and post. It’s just taking a bit to get back into the swing of things.
I clean up my list at times. Once I see someone I haven’t yet gotten to know, I read their posts, and if the post isn’t that interesting, I delete them.
heyyyy
I keep a lot of people on my friend list since I’m on friends lock right now, actually. SO DON’T DELETE ME PLEASEEE (: ♥
@sorrybabydoll - Oh dear, I’m not going to delete anyone!! I’m just trying to get to know the people I don’t recognize!
I have 240 friends. I tried to go through my friends list and comment everyone. I got through three pages… out of the 12 pages of friends that I had. Then I gave up. So… I hear you. Hi. My name’s Khai. I read your page probably… once a week? TBH, I probably read most people’s pages once a week. It sort of circulates, depending on who posts while I’m online, and who comments me.
Oh em gee, yes! It’s hilarious when I get stuff in my UI, and I’m like, “When did I friend THAT person?!”
The random penis pictures always kinda of surprise me. Then I’m all OH THATS WHY I ADDED THEM.
yep, you are describing my exact xanga situation. There’s no way I’m “going in there” to do surgery on my friends list, lol, I’m just letting it take care of itself. I generally see a couple of adds and a couple of drops per day.
I went through my friends list a few weeks ago and deleted about 200 people. I didn’t remember most of them and a lot of them didn’t even use xanga anymore.
I always tell myself, if all my friends commented my posts, I’d have 700 eprops per post and hit top blogs every time.
On average there are about 30 people I comment regularly (try to anyway) and who comment me fairly regularly. Others are familiar faces but we don’t comment each other very often.
And about 284 of them are people I don’t even know or remember. =D
@ShimmerBodyCream - oh my gawd I can’t stop laughing.
I gotta really like someone’s blog to friend them. That takes quite some time to happen. So far i don’t have such a problem..I have deleted people that deleted their accounts though
I got a lot of just random friends, but then again I read a lot of peoples blogs, and I don’t really deny anybody if they add me.
But Hi you probibly don’t know me
Dear Crystal,
I know you know me. You can’t miss my comments. Since I usually don’t visit someone unless they comment on my blog, if you don’t drop by, I might not regularly read you.
You show up on my inbox all the time.
I wrote an entry in March titled “Xanga Friends, Who ARE all these people” so I was intrigued by your title. Of the 400 so “friends” I have now, I’ll guess 200 are not even active anymore.
If I’ve missed returning a comment you left me, my sincerest apologies. I know I’ve been missing a few lately, and I don’t even blog on the weekends much. (I live in SoCal, and we have a pool.) I wrote 35 comments just yesterday, and nearly got carpal tunnel syndrome!
Whoah. You’ve nearly got 1000 friends. You go girl.
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come get to know me. oh, wait! can’t.
Ha ha! I read most everything you write. I’ve not commented lately because frankly…..you can do without most of my issues!
in some way or another…I make sure to remember everyone on my list. but on my sub lists are people i’d like to get to know well, or people that i really do know well already.
it happens…try to go through and trim your list. it helps your feeds.
I’ve had that happen before… It’s just, you get so many friends that you can’t possibly keep up with who is still on Xanga and who isn’t. Plus if you’ve got a life or kids (I’ve got three) you don’t have as much time to go through your friends list or go through all of your subs for that matter.
So I’m never offended if people forget who I am ‘cuz I sometimes forget them too
hi, i’m maniacsicko =)
All the time. But I go through phases of xanga friends…not a lot of people stay here for the long haul. I’ve been here for almost ten years now, which is longer than almost anyone else I know.
131 of them, I laughed as I go through my non-dailies quarterly to semi-yearly and one I saw that hadn’t posted since last year this time~! hahaha. oh and if you come over to my site- come over via main page, the latest blog is perhaps your nemesis of interest
choose from 5 boring blogs versus one! hope to see everyone daily but if i did, I’d go nuts trying to keep up and it is ONLY FAIR.
I have had the good fortune of not having too many moments like that, I know what you mean though. Happens to me on Facebook a lot.
Yeah, I don’t have a whole lot, but I’ve got more than just a few. And some of them, like you, I can’t remember them, or adding them, or anything about them.
@firetyger - Totally agree!
I totally get what you’re sayin. It’s impossible to be close, for me, to just over a hundred friends but I have made a few amazing ones along the way. Just your title “WHO ARE THE PEOPLE?” caught my eye and I had to stop by and say hello. I give you my word that if you add me as a friend I will keep updated and respond to what you’re bloging about!!!!!!! So take a chance on me and I promise you won’t regret it!!!!!
Soulstarxx
I auto-add people. I’m also a subscription whore so..
yes, all the time. i only have about 63 friends (which isn’t that much
), but i add everyone who sends me a friend request (except if they’re pro-thinspo). if they don’t write anything that interests me or if they do and then they drop off the face of the earth, i delete them. i feel guilty for the latter, but…if they don’t write anything, then why should they still be my friend?
Oooo this is a good idea! I probably only know/actively read about 15% of my friends list. Most people just don’t post regularly enough for me to notice them OR they just so happen to post while im on xanga haitus. Which is often. Sigh. =] In my defense i hardly ever actively “add” anyone, i just accept invites. Im lazy.
I keep my friends list down, so I know most of them. Though admittedly not all.
But you should check out my page, cause I have a spiffy profile pic.
Happens to me too
hahaha I don’t know atleast 400 people on my friendslist and I barely ever add people
Wait a minute. Do I know you? Why are you on my friends list? Damn, Xangaing can be soooooo complicated!
i have some that dont come on much any more and i really should clean up both my subs and friends lists. and yes, sometimes i forget who someone is if they are not a frequent blog/visitor.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t recognize me. I got crazy busy and haven’t been posting much! I’m a sucker for adding people. If I get a request, most likely I’ll accept it whether or not I know/like the person or not.
There are some that I see I don’t remember. I think it’s because they stopped posting.
Do you recognize me?
@ksnomad - I will read your blog, no worries <3
@TimeLostMeaning - You added the hat!! I lurve it!!
@buddly47 - I think I know you from somewhere….
@beautifulchaos2 - I recognize you, but I haven’t seen you in forever!!
@breaking_expectations - psh, of course!!! You haven’t been gone THAT long, lol!
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@crazy2love - Why thank you! I did it today before work (while at work, lol).
Lol, yup!
That’s why I only add people I know I’ll definitely keep in contact with
I read you all the time! I am not a good commenter, however… I have that bad blogging attitude that if I’m not going to get comments, then it doesn’t matter if I comment or not. That’s not the right way to look at it, though.
I see people on my feed that I forget I had too. I think some people just don’t have the courage to comment sometimes.
I have added friends as requested now it is way out of hand.
I add people I find interesting and then try to find time to keep up with them lol. So until I familiarize myself with them more, I probably won’t recognize everyone every time.
Yeah, but I just add everyone who requests.
yep. I dont even know who some are. and I never see them pop into my inbox so I never visit. Out of site out of mind
I pay attention. I guess because I want to know that those I add are going to be there not just for number sake but because they are truly interested and so am I. So if someone is on my friends list I know. It is hard once it goes over 100 though. :/ But I try. And if I find that the number goes too high I will take off the ones I stopped reading or I know haven’t been around or on xanga for a loong time. And when I mean long it seems like they are non existent. Maybe that is mean but that is what it is. If I know the person though I tend to give the person more time. yeah I am mean.
same here. I’ll periodically go thru and delete people I’m really not familiar with. After all, I post lots of pics & I like to have some clue as to who’s reading them, lol. Every once in a while, I’ll come across someone & be like, “who the heck is this?” lol
lol i read but rarely comment. just saying. and i haven’t really written regularly in a while.
Yep. Every once in a while I go through and delete ‘em.
Occasionally. When I do I click on their page to be reminded.
Do you remember me??
@Roadlesstaken - Not at all Alex
If it makes you feel better, i have no idea who most of the people on my friends list are. I seriously only talk to a handful. But i reply to nearly every comment. That’s usually what gets a xanga friendship started.
I just love when people I have never even talked to before subscribe to me. I don’t think some of my xanga friends are active anymore. But I’m too lazy to go through them.
I know the people on my friends list and don’t accept everyone who sends me an invite. I have a lot of people subbed to me who I never hear from and do not even know who they are.
People like to add me so they can delete me
I just kinda go with it. I def. read my subs which I try to keep down in the low numbers.
I had a bunch of invites 3 days ago. I stopped adding and it finally stopped. It was like a chain reaction.
Yes. of course
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I find myself removing the same people from my friends list over and over again.
I don’t have that problem. I try to remember that behind the username, there’s a person there. It is for this reason that I don’t accept just anyone, unless I have visited their site, enjoyed reading their site, and know that I will continue to follow them. Also, I don’t hand out friend invites like they’re nothing (if I do it at all). It’s ridiculous how people really don’t care about who they “friend” / subscribe to. I have 89 subscribers, but you couldn’t be able to tell that if you visited my site, because I have maybe 3 or 4 regular people. I kind of wish I could maintain who subscribes (by deleting some of them).
Haha, wow.. I definitely know what you mean. I’ve thought about going through my list and doing a clean up, but I dread the thought of how long that would take… but wow you have a LOT more friends than I do.. I’m lucky if I get 2 comments a week…lol
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I’d like to stay on your list, and am always open to getting to know someone better.
I accidentally accepted about 200 friend requests at one time. I’m constantly weeding people out.
Actually we just became “friends” err technically yesterday. I read some of the posts and smiled and even laughed and then felt bad for some of them. But I do have friends that I wonder why i even added them because all they do is recommend other people’s blogs and sometimes it’s rather annoying.
I recently deleted over 150 people from my friends list… Some of them haven’t been around for like a year, some of them never come to my site anymore, and some of them, I don’t even remember!
It took a really long time (and I guess that I knew that was going to be the case, and that’s why I put it off for so long), but I cleaned house…
Hey! I know you!
i do that alot, but sometimes it good i get to read a variety =)
I’ve been whittling my lists down too.
no. i’ve been here 7 years and have 15 friends.
i know who they all are, at least vaguely.
hi i am sha sha
I’ve tried going through and weeding out those who are no longer here but it gets to be overwhelming since I get caught up in reading each as I go. I would love to be able to comment every one at least once a week but I just don’t have the time.
I recently got rid of a few people that I don’t even remember adding. I did the same thing with my facebook friends list, and got rid of over 100 people. Some of them were people I knew in high school – 5 years ago – and others were just random people I don’t talk to anymore.
I posted comments on your entries several times, so yeah..
Allow me to introduce myself.
Don’t bother going to my page. I haven’t posted much. I’m more of a roving commenter mostly because I didn’t know what I was getting into when I first saw a Google hit that interested me and had to register to comment, then started getting daily top blogs in my inbox. It was a month or two before I realized Revelife is actually a Christian site and over two years before I learned Xanga is a site for writers.
i attact weirdos. i have the strangest people subscribe to me… fast cash, who cheated on who, bible verses, it goes on forever. lol. i add them all. the more love, the better!
I only have maybe two regular readers? So yeah, generally I try not to add friends unless I’ve actually talked to them. :/
I just started a new one and already have 8 friend requests from people who didn’t even comment on either of my two posts.If somebody asks to be friends but doesn’t at least comment I usually ignore it.So far pretty much everyone I have friended I knew from my last two Xangas. I will be picky with this one,but if anyone wants to sub they are welcome.I don’t plan on messing with this much anymore
I cleaned out my friends and subscribers a few weeks ago. I think I got rid of about 200+ people.
For a second, I thought you’d be talking about the Kardashians. That’s what I think whenever I turn on the TV or open a magazine.
You end up with far more than you will ever know. Mostly because people go inactive. And there no reason to dump an inactive account because they never turn up on your in box. And some just like to read so
Right about now you are going to be saying Who the hell is that. I am one of those random people who just clicked on your list and added you as a friend. I Have the same problem with friends list on face-book and yahoo messenger. Anyway you make a very good point on people showing up I hope you don’t mind that i just dropped in I just joined xanga and thought yours was interesting.
lol i dont know half my friends list. When I first started out, I use to make myself go to everyone on my friendslists and view their latest posts, comment, and if it was interesting enough, rec it. But as My friends list grew, and my busy schedual grew too, I dont have the time for that anymore, but my regular readers/visitors I try to return the favor as much as I can.
Tis I!
I have lots of people on my friends list, who I don’t even know are there.
If I don’t comment this post you’ll defriend me? I don’t want that to happen! So I’m commenting. Please let me stay. I WANT TO LIIIIIIVE!
Sometimes they change their display name
“Who the heck are you?” haha
I try to keep up with whom exactly I add. Most of the time, it’s people I’ve come to like as writers on Xanga. Either for their political views, their personal stories, or their struggles in general with day to day objects. Most are poets, artists, or picture posters. A few are rather outlandish–like the nudist I have on my list. So I suppose I do have somewhat of a basic knowledge on who they are. I hate to just accept adds from people without having read their blog. I may not comment, but sometimes I will lurk or rec.
I don’t use the homepage, so I really can’t comment on that. I do check my footprints everytime I log on to Xanga, and I occasionally do wonder how my site is being found. Particularly when it isn’t a username, only a location.
Sometimes I don’t remember who they are when they change their pic or change their username.
All the time.. but sometimes I would drop by on their blogs and cmt their last blog or whatever. Of if they drop by mines, I’ll return the favor too.
i get random adds sometimes. and i guess i do it too. but yeah sometimes i wonder how people even found me in the first place….
I still have people on there from high school who probably haven’t updated in 4 years. I’m just too lazy to purge I guess…
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Xanga had your posting “I am a Muslim, therefore I am a terrorist” up on the Featured Weblogs section of the front page. I became curious by the title you use, and the little snippet they had under it. I agreed with your thinking and left you a comment. At that time I was ask to subscribe and / or become a friend. I chose to befriend you and you befriend me. I only leave comments on subjects that I feel I can impart an opinion, or words of advice (to my closer friends). Right now I haven’t had much time for blogging or commenting, personal life busy. My blog is mostly about Native Americans and their words of wisdom. I also don’t have many friends here at Xanga, only 16. So my circle of friends is very small. I am a very private person and don’t let many people into my personal life (done under protected postings). Before I open myself up to people here at Xanga I try to get to know them better, by their blogs and comments that they leave me, and vice versa. I am also not offended when somebody unfriends me. So if you don’t want me as a friend, I am ok with it. I don’t push people to like or dislike me. I’m to old (53) to change my way of life or thinking. My best friend forever is and always will be my wife!
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yeah i have tons of those people haha lots dropped off the face of xanga.
I never add people, but I do get random friend invites from people I don’t know or really cannot remember ever commenting on one of their posts.
I don’t add most people who send me a request, but I probably wouldn’t know most of them anyways. There are only about six Xangans I comment on their site with any frequency.
Haha, I deleted most of my friends a while ago. It was getting really annoying that I didn’t even remember the majority of the people. I really don’t know why people would add me, I’m not interesting in the slightest or popular on here at all!
For sure happens all the time for me.
my apologies for the lack of updating or comments, I have been less than motivated to blog as of late, although I am experimenting with positive thinking as inspired by a quality friend and maybe I will report on the progress of that sometime
Every now and then someone will pop up whom I haven’t heard from in a while and it takes me a moment or two to figure out who they are.
dont delete me! I love reading your stuff but rarely get to comment :p
No need to go to my page. I feel like we know each other pretty well haha.
Ummm you dont know but you were one of the featured journals when I got back on my xanga for the first time 2 years so I read your stuff and liked it and suscribed and friended :]
I think I’m pretty sure I don’t know anyone on my friends list. Like not personally… or even as a casual aquiantance. Kinda sad really lol. I just subscribe to folks that seem interesting. So far I’ve had some good reading material lol. And I’d post more often too, but all my best post material comes when I’m nowhere near a computer. And after a somewhat emotionally painful event (loong story there) tied to a journal I was keeping, I just can’t bring myself to write stuff down anymore. So more often than not, I’ll go months without updating lol. *shrugs* I also want to write about “meaningful” stuff, but the only time I’m inspired is when I want to vent lol, so a lot of it is kinda depressing in my opinion. Not as bad as my twitter though lol.
But feel free to to read through my jazz if you want.
I realize this is a little late in coming, but I haven’t checked my email in about a month and I’m just now getting to the “Xanga Subscription Update” with this post in it lol.