June 1, 2010
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Xangan Comfort
The other day, I posted my story on cutting, and got a lot of really nice comments, and read some of your stories. I will get to responding to them….
But when I post something deeply personal, it seems like my friends on Xanga haul out the support wagon and offer very kind words of encouragement and share their own stories. I feel a great level of comfort, knowing that there are people out there willing to take the time out of their day to read what I have to say and comment. I feel blessed that there are so many wonderful people out there that understand me and what I’ve gone through.
I was wondering if you feel the same comfort. If you post something more personal than normal, one of your dark secrets, and you get overwhelming response, does it make you feel the same way I feel?
Comments (37)
It’s nice when people can shoot the shit about things… deep, or every day bull. You feel less… crazy. Less alone.
I was shocked about the support I got when I had my issues a week or so ago. It made me feel loved.
i’ve never tried.
@TheBigShowAtUD - OMG you changed your profile pic!!! It’s like Will Smith in MIB
I too big of a sissy to try it
I came to Xanga even before I knew what FaceBook was. (I’m pretty new to computers and the internutz)
As soon as I got here, I made a few really great friends and that led to me writing all sorts of things that were pretty personal. This is a great outlet to say what’s on your mind, writing really is a good way to express yourself and it sometimes helps – in many ways.
Every once in awhile I still give my head a shake because I’m amazed at the great people here. You, all of my friends have a great way of cheering me up on a bad day. If I could capture and bottle the power this place has, I’d be a fucking millionaire!
@dikdoktor - Aww thanks Steve, you’re so awesome. But, I TOTALLY think you should have said, “If I could bottle up all the power YOU have, I’d be a millionaire.”
I try not to write anything too painful or personal because I can imagine people being like… quitcherbitchin. lol
Thanks but BLAH!!!
I’m too unstable to be bottled. I’m OK some days but if I get shook around, I’m liable to go off like nitro most of the time.
@dikdoktor - Well, I was referring to me, but that’s okay. Just calm down…and think of some totally hot chick with red and black hair wearing only a bra and super sexy eyes
I hope that will be the case as I certainly have some issues myself.
I admire those brave enough to post all of there feelings. It’s a hard thing to do and I’m glad you didn’t get any negative comments. ^_^
yes. though it is not the same as a personal touch but i do gain comfort that i can vent and get feed back (good or bad) and that there is some one who at least tries to understand. i dont look for or expect sympathy, but receiving empathy is a comfort.
tried it once because of my highschool drama queen sweetheart who felt the need to do it from time to time. Personally, it sucked and I didn’t see what the big addiction was.
I’ve posted while upset on xanga and gotten a lot of support. There are some really awesome, supportive people here… For me, it’s easier to open up on xanga than it is in real life.
I got a lot of support when I lost my xanga site and when got it back, lost all my friends. Does that count? I felt so loved on here that people would come by and give me a hand to get some of my friends back.
On a more personal note…I don’t think I have ever written something veyr personal in recent history, but I know that when I did, I got very few to come but those who did I appreciated. I do remember the post I did talk about suicide and my experience and I did get a lot of support, it helped when I was feeling very insecure about sharing such a deep story.
I am glad that you found comfort in the words given. I try to give those words to those who need it for I know that I would love them when I needed it too.
I have a very limited amount of friends here, but I prefer to keep it that way. It allows me to connect with them on a more personal level. Of those who I do have, I have gotten support when needed. Maybe not a ton, but enough to help me get through the day.
No, I don’t, because I see people doing things like this to people who share their stuff.
http://diva-jyoti.xanga.com/728028445/eating-disorder–dumping-you-as-a-friend/
When I sometimes post personal stuff I will get a lot of support from my friends on here. When I lost two of my hamsters last month I was surprised at how many people commented.
I <3333 my Xanga family.
Yes. I do feel that way. I’ve had it happen more times than I can remember, to varying degrees, but every time I share something personal there is at least ONE person on Xanga who shows me they genuinely care. I’m so thankful for this place. Really.
~V
I got the support of the people I talk to on personal levels. That’s good enough for me.
thanks darling! <3 kaybree
I’ve seen it when I put stuff out there. I try not to take it too deep very often ’cause I don’t like having my bits so much on display. It is nice to know that people do respond with kindness here when you are hurting. :0)
I post the super personal stuff all the time. Having people respond with their thoughts and stories helps me feel not so alone and like I’m not as crazy as I think I am.
@TakingxOverxMe - You’re not crazy sweetie, you’ve been through a lot. <3
I do feel the way you do. Xanga is good like that
You guys have helped me a lot.
now that i can see it…i like the photo
@Rich_n_Skinny - I think we all do.. =((
It makes me feel good =) makes me feel like i’m not alone in the world..and you’re not the only one that cuts..or used to. It happens..but we all get through it ^_^ no one is ever alone and that’s something I keep close to my heart. Someone will always know how you feel…
I find that people mean well but can never understand something unless they go thru it. Sorry i missed your cutting post. I cant help thinking that at least it wont kill you, like making urself throw up. I guess that’s meant 2B supportive but it didnt sound as good as i meant it.
No one reads mine
It would be nice though. You’re lucky :]]
thanks. <3 kaybree
Yes I do. I get a lot of support here on xanga and the people here are the best.
Yes, I remember posting something about racism – something I feel very strongly about. It was one of my personal posts and I got an outstanding response. It felt really great.
def, i used to be a cutter and many other things and xanga i would say did help me through alot.
i hope we can talk and become friends.
i would like to subscribe to you as well.
Many moons ago I started a blog just focused on my experience as a survivor of sexual assault – I wanted to keep it separate from my other blog and I was completely awed by the support I had there. It got me through some extremely difficult times, that’s for sure.
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