May 22, 2010
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FAT {oh, and FYI….new theme!!!}
Since the topic of being fat has once again reared its ugly head on xanga, I will once again blog about it.
I’ve been overweight for a very long time….probably ever since puberty. In high school, I felt like I was too overweight, but I wasn’t concerned. I had bigger problems to worry about, like my mother completely losing it and murdering her family (which she seemed perfectly capable of doing, in her cocaine-induced state).
When I graduated, I lived with my father and worked full time. I gained a lot of weight. I hated myself, but I still didn’t think anything of it. You see, I WANTED to be unattractive. Being molested as a child does that to a person.
People tell me I’m not fat, that I’m beautiful. Sure, I know I’m pretty, but that doesn’t take away the fact that I’m fat, and for most of my life, I’ve preferred it that way. Only in middle school was I teased for being overweight, so I suppose I’ve been lucky in that respect.
So the next time you tease someone for being fat or talking about it, remember that there might a reason someone wants to be fat and your comments only make it worse.
Comments (32)
hugs. You are amazing.
Great post. I am trying to loose weight right now because I have no one to fall for, and I refuse to date anyone that doesn’t totally blow my mind and rock my world. So i am gonna try and get into shape and find a hunk to rape… er… meet. heh
A mans body is my carnival! lol
I completely understand where you are coming from. I am over weight simply because when I was in my teen years I was put on a variety of anti-depressants that made me gain weight. On a few occasions I talked to my doctor about switching them but he never really seemed to do it. At that time I was concerned about my mental health more than gaining the extra lbs. Now, I deal with the constant pressure from society to lose weight.. It drives me to madness sometimes and I just wish people would just shut up about it.
If someone is fat, deal with it. Don’t make it into a huge deal when it doesn’t really effect your life..
Great post. I have read a few of the posts that have been targeted at overweight people and it is disgraceful. I have also noticed that most of these posts are targeted not just at overweight people but overweight women.
Good luck with getting your body healthy.
I’m fat. So what?
If that is going to make someone like/hate me, that’s on them. Not me.
I am huge. After I had my tonsils out I ballooned. One doctor thought that when they removed the tonsils they damaged some nerves that help control appetite which would make sense since I never have the feeling of being “full”. Then when I started football in the 4th grade I jsut bulked up and it was muscle on fat. I never got made fun of in school because people knew better and thought I was mostly muscle. What would you think if you saw a guy doing 800lbs on a hip sled? Anyway…great post and congrats on the loss.
A layer of fat makes a shield around you. You make yourself unloveable so that you won’t run the risk of being hurt. I know exactly how you feel.
I don’t understand why weight is such an issue for some people. I’m ok with people with some extra fat in them, and I like them better than thinspos. My dad used to be an obese man until he finally decided he had enough of those fat jokes, teasings and taunts, and decided to do something positive about it.
well said.
You always sound like a great person – you’re sincere and I’m glad that we’ve met here in Xanga. It’s good to hear you are attempting to improve yourself – losing a bit of weight will change your appearance but, you’re always going to be a good person inside and that’s what really matters the most.
I liked this, and I also posted my blog about it too. *hugs*
Great post!
So ture. I’m overweight myself and I’m constantly hearing it from my family… “DON’T EAT THAT, DON’T EAT THIS, YOU’RE TOO FAT, YOU NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!” And sometimes it’s usually in a harsh/hurtful manner and it doesn’t help my health at all… I’ve been dieting and exercising to be healthier, and as of now I’ve only lost 20 pounds since like February. I’m taking it slow otherwise I might go craysee, I know how you feel and I’m really trying to get that protective shield off.
I never thought of it that way, but great point.
Good luck on your journey to being a healthier person <3
Obviously this is a subject that almost all of us feel very passionately about. I can’t believe what a shitstorm I incited on my blog when I wrote about it. I’ve been on Xanga for OVER 5 years, and I’ve NEVER had a response like that. Not even close.
Hang in there, girl. Changes happen slowly sometimes. As long as you keep moving in the right direction, you’re good.
Six years ago I started my journey to lose weight and I know it’s a long road. Lasting change for those of us do this takes time if it’s going to work. It took me almost three years to lose the first 80 lbs. Now I’m at a weight I can live with, my diabetes and blood pressure are under control and I’m still working on losing the last 20 lbs a little at a time. All told I’ve lost 105 lbs since I started and I am truly happier with myself than I’ve been in over twenty years.
I wish you well on your journey.
Congrats on the weight loss!
grats on losing a little if that’s what you wanted, yay for you! another new theme! LOL, it’s nice.
Congratulations on doing what you want with your life and body. The new theme is kinda nice too.
I’m overweight too because of a lot of meds I was put on as a little girl for treating asthma. I went from being tiny tiny to being compared to “Fatso” from Casper when my class watched it in 3rd grade (btw that jerk got a demerit for that one). I understand the whole people telling you that you are beautiful thing. It’s just hard to feel it, you know? Good luck!
Good post
And your new theme is nice too.
Hugs times a million <3 You are beautiful. And I love the new theme
I never thought of that before.
We shouldn’t judge people for the way they choose to live their lives anyway.
Being fat is honestly not a huge thing socially… only mentally and physically. Probably being overweight wont do wonders for your health. And as a former battler of anorexia i know it can be a huuuge mental burden. But socially, people should love you for you and not what you look like or eat. You sound like you have a great personality so its not a top priority.
great post! I so agree with you! Ever since my childhood, I’ve been teased for not being skinny or fair by my mom and why my legs are too stocky etc etc etc. Such comments can scar a person for life. I’m trying to get over it, but it’s really hard. I prefer not to make derogatory comments.
congrats on the weight loss!
@hilaw -
@macphoto - Thanks, you’re amazing too =]
@maniac_rose - Losing weight for yourself is always the best reason.
@xTheInnerZombiex - Exactly. There are legitimate reasons someone is overweight like prescriptions and other health problems.
@who_I_really_want_2_be - I didn’t read many of the posts, but just the fact that it’s being blogged about pisses me off :/
@betterdesigned - Exactly.
@godfatherofgreenbay - Thanks! People were probably afraid you’d kick their ass, working out like that!
@LilMisha - Exactly =[
@reckless_eagle - When I look at women, I prefer them to have a little extra too...women who are too thin frighten me a little. They look like they are going to break.
@hilaw - Thank you.
@dikdoktor - Aww! *hug* I'm glad we've met here on Xanga too =]
@bethb031409 - I’ll have to go check it out. I haven’t seen any of your posts for awhile!
@openmindedgirlk - Thank you.
@iamthebella - My dad wasn’t that supportive when I started trying to lose weight again. He actually said, “Haven’t you tried that before?” and acted doubtful that I would be successful.
@the_peach_assailant - Thank you.
@Another_Perfect_Wonder - Thanks. It’s a tough battle, that’s for sure.
@WalkingaNewPath - Thank you, and congrats! That’s amazing.
@ItsWhatEyeKnow - Thank you.
@And_I_love - Thanks =]
@tsh44 - Thanks =]
@frozenfire55608 - It is hard to feel it, and thank you.
@Shining_Garnet - Thanks =]
@YeahHer - Aww thanks =]
@CombinedEffort - No, we shouldn’t judge, but too often we find that we do. It’s kind of sad.
@jmackadoo - Thanks for that. Any eating disorder is hard to deal with, congrats on beating it.
@AasthaKathy - Anytime your family makes negative comments about your appearance, it really sticks with you =[
@ShimmerBodyCream - Thanks! =]
You should see jpmetz’s take on being fat. Haha, my best friend showed it to me one day when I was all, “Waaah, I’m so faaaaat”, and flipping out because of a breakup.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CY2n0tcErPU
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You’re beautiful; not fat. Remember that.
This is probably the best post ive seen all day.
Love it