January 18, 2010
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Rules Of Xanga
FUCK YOU.
So you want to rule Xanga by putting rules in place? You want to be a xangalebrity? Well, good luck with that. I hope you plan on spending all of your free time in front of the monitor, because that’s what it takes. You can talk about “The Rules” and what it takes to be in Top Blogs and stay there all you want, but unless you are willing to dedicate the time, you aren’t going anywhere. Why do you want it anyway?
So you get your big post and it’s successful. Maybe you get another one after that. And then unless you go and frequently visit everyone who is now your new friend, you are going to lose it. It’s a slow process, and there is no “get rich quick” way to sustain your xangalebrity status.
At this point, xanga can have its drama. I’m getting sick of a lot of it, especially the manufactured bullshit. Sometimes people are genuinely angry at someone else, that’s fine. But starting shit for no reason is getting old.
I’m sick of having to babysit some of these friendships because I don’t have the time to read the blogs of over 500 people. If you want to base our internet friendships on that, I don’t need you. After I work 60 hours a week, all I want to do is come home, relax, and read a few blogs… without losing any “friends” because I didn’t see their blog for the day or the last week or two. That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy reading your posts. I simply don’t have the time. When I work 6:30 in the morning until 6 or 6:30 at night, I don’t get home until after 7 at night. Then I go to bed at 9 or 10. That doesn’t leave a lot of time to read blogs, especially if I do other things with those couple of hours. I especially won’t see it if you write your posts in the mornings and don’t timestamp.
I’m thinking about talking a break from Xanga. I can’t take it anymore. I have enough stress at my new job. My hair is falling out because I’m so stressed. I’ve been losing more hair than I should be a day. I used to be able to wash my hair and only a few strands come out. Now I wash my hair and about 30 come out.
So you can keep your xanga rules. Do what you wish with them.
Comments (76)
Thank you! Finally!
…did I miss something while I was gone?
@striemmy - I don’t think so. I’m just sick of losing friends every day because I’m too busy to comment on their page all the time.
Getting naked, and sexually explicit titles seem to hold interest…
yes!
@crazy2love - Ah I see. Well, that’s why I don’t create the idea that I’m going to in the first place. I comment when the urge hits me. I’m pretty sure everyone on here that knows me knows that by now.
I agree…I don’t care who subs to me. I read who I’m interested in and people shouldn’t get all pissed off if you’re not going to their posts all the time. At least you look when you have time/feel like it!
Nah, that’s no good. First and foremost, you need to be here for YOU, this is your blog where you write whatever you wish, imposing rules is laughable, who did that?? I’m sorry you aren’t finding the refuge this place is supposed to provide, that is unfortunate.
Perhaps taking a a day or two break would be good for you. Xanga shouldn’t be stressing you out! Personally, it’s my place to relax.
@crazy2love - agree.
You should be able to comment whoever you want whenever you want without pressure.
I hope I didn’t just step in the middle of poop.
wow. people who expect anyone to read all of their blogs and comment all the time have some problems. O.O i dont expect the people here on xanga to read or comment. if i wrote something worth reading/commenting people will, if not, that’s that.
@TheTheologiansCafe - Haha, I don’t think you stepped in poop =]
This. is. wonderful. I love and respect your perspective. Well said.
I, for a brief period of time, was concerned about keeping up with the multitudes of “friends” and then I came to find peace in the fact that the people I really enjoyed reading would be willing to wait awhile before I fluttered through.
Do what you need to do. Take care of yourself. I’ll still flutter about
Incidentally, your photo at the top of your Xanga looks like a photo of Hayley McFarland. I adore her.
There are rules?
If people are feeling butt hurt because you don’t have the time to visit their blogs, then fuck them. It’s obvious that you’re busy… I mean, if they spent the time to read your blog they’d know this. Right? So whatever, don’t worry about us. The blog is for your purposes. If you feel like you truly need a break, do it. If this was just to vent, that’s fine too. =)
@doesthisdefineme - I really don’t know what it is, to be honest. =[
@SecretNeverTold - Hmm. I don’t know who that is. I don’t know, I just found it on DeviantArt =]
People are just being silly.
I agree.
here’s what I think of a bunch of fucking rules! http://and-i-love.xanga.com/719183763/xangetiquette/
and I would never unfriend you for not reading me!
Xanga shouldn’t be stressful. I wouldn’t come on here everyday if it was. Who needs unnecessary stress?
I never expect people to go and comment all my blogs every single day, lol. Though I do appreciate a comment here and there so I know that there is some back and forth ya know? But I never worry over it too much since i know that people have a life and they are busy. If I find that there is none at all then I tend to delete, but that is after a hard deliberation on it. And I don’t care..I try to get around to most but if I don’t then I am not gonna bite my lip and hope that they don’t take me off either because if they do then I totally understand because I would do the same. Lol.
Take care of you and I hope the work will get a bit less stressful for you.
Blah, people are so annoying. Don’t stress yourself over stupidity.
<3
I agree with what Dan said. People should be able to comment whoever they want whenever they want and not get mad about it .We all have our own lives.
I never expect anyone to comment my blogs. Sure when it happens it’s nice but I’m not going to delete someone if they didn’t. That’s pathetic.
@SliverLines - It happens to me all the time, especially lately. Every day my friends drop by 1 or 2 :/
Yes, we all need a break from Xanga once in awhile. But don’t let it eat you up.
@crazy2love - See. I don’t even keep track of mine. Then again, I’m not as… erm… popular on Xanga. haha. Ah well. It’s their loss. =] But I guess this kind of thing has been happening to a few people lately…
I know what you mean. I don’t comment that often but I try to. There’s alot of people that I’m friends with that don’t stop by or leave comments even if I do that to them. I don’t mind though because me being on here isn’t about getting people to comment me, I’m on here to get otu my thoughts and relax by reading others stuff even if they’re not on my friends list.
Don’t get stressed over it. Seriously, I’ve found that I am me, regardless of what other people like or don’t like about that, and that’s good enough for me. My blog, my rules.
As for your blog, I typically enjoy reading you, so even though you may be too busy to read the multitudes, please don’t stop posting! *seriousface*
I think that might be why I lose friends/subscribers. I try to comment on peoples posts as much as I can, but I don’t always have time and I’m not online all day, only at night, but I try to comment as much as possible, but it’s hard to keep up with all the posts when you have over 300 friends. Although the last subscriber I lost was because apparently I timestamp to much and I know this because he said so in a pulse.
Huh? I’m supposed to be reading blogs? And commenting? When did that start?
@ChainGangSoldier619 - Really, I don’t understand what everyone’s problem with timestamping is. I would rather people timestamp than not, otherwise their post gets lost in the shuffle. *shrug*
@Galbsadi - I’m sorry, I should try and visit you more. I never see your posts..do you update in the morning?? If you do, then there’s no way I’ll see them in my inbox =[
@RaquelHiggins005 - I’m glad people have that opinion of blogging…not here for the comments kind of thing.
@saintvi - Haha!
it shudn’t matter wether or not you can always comment on someones post, they have a life so why shudn’t you. people are fucking slow. if you need time take a break, for you, not cause their running you off. it just gives them more power over you.
@crazy2love - I update really sporadically, so I’m not really concerned as to whether people notice my blogs. So, no apologies allowed!
@TheTheologiansCafe - agreed
nooo, the manufactured drama is the best. it’s like a spoof of the real thing. REAL drama on the internet is totally ridiculous.
@TheBigShowAtUD - I’m sorry I haven’t talked to you lately. I’m an awful friend :/
I’VE NOTICED. what kind of relationship is this? what’s happening to us?!
@TheBigShowAtUD - I don’t know! I feel terrible, if it’s any consolation. I’ll visit you now.
You’re right, unless you spend your entire day on here, it’s not possible to comment to everyone. Aren’t we all on here to write what’s on our minds and read what others have to say WHEN WE HAVE TIME? There is a real world outside.
eh, people are stupid. The only posts I get especially butt hurt about people reading are protected posts, and thats because I only have 10 spots on a list that people asked to be on. Otherwise, I write for me, and if anyone has a problem with me not stopping by and commenting all the time, then I don’t need to be their “friend” anyways.
I know how you feel.
well, there’s nothing new to see yet. i’m writing the next one, right now. oooh.
@Celtic_Wandering - The real world frightens me. Haha, jk =] Work is pretty much taking over my life at this point, and my coworkers feel the same way. I simply don’t have the time to indulge in peoples’ egos around here and comment everyone all the time, and most people don’t.
@lizheartshakespeare - Agreed.
@TheBigShowAtUD - Well you better get on it! lol =]
I don’t read everybody’s post. I don’t respond to all the comments I get either. I have a life. anyone who would gt mad or unfriend you for not keeping up with their blog has no life. You are better off without them.
I love it when people read or comment on my blogs, because I consider it an honor. I know how busy people are, and if I am the one you choose to read that says something about my writing.
@crazy2love - Nor should you be made to feel as though you have to. Real life takes priority. Always has and always will. You do what you need to for yourself, and to hell with those who have a problem with that.
haha, in Vanity Fair,
there was an article about “twilibrites”. (most famout twitters)
the funniest part, one of them was from my hometown.
Well said.
It can’t be good to lose your hair over a blog. I didn’t even realize that there are “xangalebrities”, thanks for the heads up.
Big hugs! People who don’t want to be friends with you because you didn’t read their blog or comment on their blog are really not worth being friends with, IMO. I don’t think they’re true friends anyhow. Ugh.
lol yeahh! It can feel really like an extra pressure. I just stopped commenting altogether and I specially hate those that only comment after you comment them. Not like they remembered to visit you, when the saw your comment just like people who ONLY & ALWAYS comment when you just left a comment. Seems so insincere! I’d rather just write for the sake of it again ^^
Your TRUE (xanga) friends will still be here if you decide to go away for a while. I know I’ll miss you if you do but I can understand.
Is this what they call irony?
Ha ha well said:), dont read the blogs, you donmt want to, just leave ” nice blog” comment without reading, keep your friends and save your time from killing too:)
It’s just Xanga, take a chill pill.
XANGA is my escapism, nothing less nothing more. And I sincerely hope I won’t change despite this and that.
I like you already. We don’t need stupid rules and dramas around here.
Yup. I’ve been away for a few days but one thing I can always count on is that Xanga will still be filled with drama when I return. I’ve only been back for a little over a month and I’m sick of it already. As far as rules on Xanga goes, that’s just ridiculous. It’s your blog, you should be able to write about whatever you damn well please. And if you need to take a break from Xanga, don’t hesitate to take a break. Your health is far more important than Xanga!
I would never even notice if someone dropped me from their friend list or unsubscribed to me. I never look. Blogging has got to be about your enjoyment of writing and reading blogs. If it’s about numbers it’ll lose it’s appeal real quick. Write when you can. Read when you can. Forget the attention.
who cares
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People who make up Xanga rules are fucktards who obviously obsess way too much over this shit…their blog, their status, etc. In reality, I think they must be very sad people who lack any sort of life whatsoever outside the net.
Don’t let them run you off or piss you off. I have found that deleting ppl and blocking them is amazing.
Oh darn I came late to the party,
It is all about getting around and being friendly. Putting in xanga time is what it always takes.
I can think of someone who thought having John feature them every week would do the job, all by itself. Blocked anyone disagreeing and was generally unfriendly going to few sites and badmouthing all the rest. A xanga prima donna. He (or she) found out they could not draw 10 comments without being on the front page. And did not do all that well even there. She or he learned, though will not admit it. Friendly as hell and can be seen all over the place now
I can think of another person who went everywhere on xanga, was always ultra friendly. She posted gibberish on her site, but damn you had to love her. And for a while she was a bit of a xanga celebrity. Then I think she got a boyfriend and ran out of xanga time
It all about xanga time unless you’re the Thetheologianscafe. But there was a time he was on xanga constantly. He is coasting now but even he needed xanga time.
Enjoy your break
It’s hard to keep up with -every- blog you’re subscribed to. I’d think people could be understanding of that. If not, they probably weren’t worth your time in the first place.
‘Bout time someone pointed out that TIMESTAMPING IS HELPFUL.
I hear you, it’s so true that xanga can be time consuming, especially when people have jobs and relationships to maintain outside of the computer. It’s good to know our limits and while xanga can be a good place to blog, too much of it can be a bad thing I’ve come to learn and there comes a time when real life takes over and wins.
Wow! If a break is what you need take it.
there are people who never comment or read my page, but I shouldn’t worry about that; it’s for me, not them.
think its time some of you got a life!
bummer about your stress. I hope it gets better.
@crazy2love - I agree. I don’t mind people timestamping because sometimes I will miss a post and if they timestamp I get to see it. I mean, if people don’t want to read the post that’s fine, but I don’t think timestamping is as bad as some people think. Actually awhile back on the ideas section someone put up the idea to get rid of timestamping altogether.
And I know I don’t always comment on your posts, but I try to when I can, but I’m glad you’ve never unfriended me because of that. Your one of my favorite people on Xanga.
I tried to get on the front page once.
This was my attempt:
http://mcscarry.xanga.com/260143367/item/
Its pretty hilarious b/c I thought that if I gave myself enough comments, it would automatically be featured.
@McScarry - lmao, that was a long time ago =]