November 14, 2009
-
Rape Fantasies
Lately there’s been a lot of flak going around about rape fantasies and whether or not they are okay….I’m just throwing my opinion out there.
A close relation of rape is molestation…
So are people going to be shocked when I say that I have rape fantasies? Upset? Flame me?
I am very much into BDSM and rough sex. To me, sex isn’t even good unless it’s rough. I’m a submissive, or a “sub” or a “bottom.” I love being dominated and I find it very stimulating. There’s no better feeling in the world to me than being pinned underneath someone and not being able to move. BDSM is not only about the submissive-dominant relationship, it’s also about trust. You have to trust your partner not to go too far.
This is one of my fantasies:
Performing rape fantasies are only okay in the bedroom (or living room…or whatever…) with your partner.REAL rape is NEVER okay.
Comments (43)
Agree!
being unable to move… hm. i think i prefer participation.
what’s with those outfits? seriously. haha.
@TheBigShowAtUD - Well that’s just the foreplay, lmao!
oh, well then. ok. good work.
i’m with you. as far as i know you own your mind. and you can fantasze about any damn thing you want. ugh. where do these people get off? makes me livid.
AGREED. I think that’s what people are having trouble understanding, most people with a rape fantasy know that there never will be an excuse to rape someone. Consenting partners pretending is the only fair place for it.
All right you have it in one shot! Role playing in the BDSM arena between a Master and subbie is very common. All one has to do is read DeSade to find a historic context. Many women have rape fantasies and play them out with a lover. Good heathy sex between consenting adults I say!
100% agreed.
i agree completely!
Oh hell yes…
:sigh:
now comes the hard part…
showing this to my girlfriend, getting her to agree and interviewing candidates!
(I’m only half kidding)
@striemmy - Haha
You know what the fun part about certain kinks is? They never get old. =)
@striemmy - Nope, they don’t!
yay!
i agree. and i’m totally with you 100%.
Fantasies are just that. What you do with a partner you trust is your own business.
It’s funny, my boyfriend and I recently had this discussion… We figured out that rape fantasies are not really rape at all. In them, we don’t say no or fight hard to get away. It’s the idea of being dominated that actually allures us to this fantasy, not the violent act of rape itself.
@TheSeventhRhapsody - yeah literally can’t rape the willing… specially when the wet spot is already really really big…
interesting… and agreeable.
Bravo! I am afraid to share my thoughts on this so I commend you for putting your neck on the block.
I’ve been following this “rape fantasy” debate for a while. The problem I’m encountering is that I don’t know what people mean by “rape fantasy”. I’m also into BDSM, but it has nothing to do with rape. Having been assaulted, I can attest to the difference between giving up control willingly and letting someone you love and trust have their way with you. In an important sense, we aren’t really giving up or taking control in the same way as when rape is occurring.
Are people talking about bdsm or are they talking about something else? I think we might just being using the wrong words. Rape has no code word.
Awesome. People (certain xanga users…) need to stop looking down on the subject as a terrible moral thing, it’s completely normal!
@goldfishstormcloud - I think you’re right. I think I connected this talk about “rape fantasies” to BDSM because that’s really the only comparable subject.
Agreed!
Crystal, you are a nice person and I would never flame you. I have many kinks and fetishes of my own. Licking Queen Latifah’s big stinky feet and dingleberries while being sodomized by RuPaul would definately float my boat, for instance. Except RuPaul has to wear a wig while she’s fucking me! I wasn’t turned on by that butch haircut in “But I’m A Cheerleader” so much, honestly.
I’m nervous about being tied up because I think that people would steal my American Express card from my wallet and charge things on it while I’m helpless. And I am really not so interested in human ashtray play. I might be willing to try golden showers someday but I want to be someplace where I can wash up afterwards. I don’t want to go out on the street and have a drink in a bar with the bartender being able to smell piss in my hair.
You’re entirely correct.
I agree. It’s not up to people to say what’s supposedly “right or wrong”, it’s all about what individuals like. You can like whatever you like in the bedroom, people don’t see it, so what’s their problem about what people do in the privacy of their home!
Finally, a post on rape fantasy that I can agree with! D<
thank you for showing me someone else gets it.
awesomeeee
so totally agree
Thank you!
I like how NO ONE can call it what it is. Bondage, you did though ^_^
agreed. I’m the same way with (rough)sex, and it’s idiotic that anyone should purport to dictate what two people do in the privacy of their bedroom.
As a switch myself I see the joy of both sides and I wish people would see that rape fantasy is nothing like rape since rape fantasy is between safe, sane and consensual adults were rape is not safe, sane or consensual, at all.
I think this is a really sensitive subject and it needs to be left alone. There are certain things that just shouldn’t be debated on. And rape/sexual abuse happens to be one of them. Feelings get hurt too easily. Don’t think because rape fantasies don’t effect you, that they don’t effect other people that have been through similar things. No two people turn out the same because of what they have gone through. Whether they’re right or wrong… it doesn’t matter. Please debate on anything else.
I’ll fantasize about anything, ha ha, I have fantasized about the strangest things. but it’s only fantasy for some of those most twisted.
@fugita - yeah, you tell them mister taurus
@FallingSafely - I’m just curious as to why you care what she debates on
@Loonsounds - Well I concur…
@FallingSafely - Well I don’t understand. If you don’t like the post, don’t read it. There’s a lot of things that upset me, and I just don’t finish reading it. Of course no two people come away from the same experience the same, that’s what life is about. If we were all the same, it would be pretty boring.
I am afraid to open that box, myself. I think that if I were to actually engage in this, I would take it too far. Of course, on the other end of the spectrum, it just doesn’t appeal to me that much either. Turns me off actually.
@SwearNoAllegiance - Engage in which part? The beauty of BDSM (if that’s what you’re referring to) is that there’s not much that goes too far. The submissive gives the dominant a code word, so if they feel the dominant is going too far, they say the code word and by agreement the dominant steps back a notch, or stops.