June 19, 2012
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I don’t understand
So, this post is kind of going to be all, “me me me,” but I think it’s kind of a fact-finding mission, really.
A lot of people will tell me how great of a person I am, but I really don’t think I’m out of the ordinary. I will give some examples…
My sister, Taylor, has been hospitalized twice recently because of psychosis. The first time, she was in a hospital that was an hour and a half away from me, and 3 hours away from my mom. My sister Rachel and I went to see her quite a bit, and drove a very long way to visit her. The second time, she was just miles from my mom’s house, so I stayed in Taylor’s room the entire time and went to see her every day. She thanked me for being a great sister and being there for her. To me, I feel like I HAVEN’T been a good sister. Years ago, when I moved out, I just left her here with my mother. And, she pushed me away and I let her. I wasn’t a good sister to her for a very long time, and I have a lot of guilt about it.
Last week, my sister Rachel had two problems: her boyfriend was out of town and she was lonely, and her license is revoked. So, I stayed with her for the week and drove her to and from work.
People just tell me a lot how nice of a person I am, and I suppose that’s true. I will do whatever I can for the people that I care about, always. I will always listen and offer advice whenever someone needs to talk. I’m just always there when someone needs me, and I guess people recognize this and feel the need to tell me how awesome I am.
My point is this…shouldn’t everyone be this way? This selfless? Not to say that I’m not selfish, which I can be… But, shouldn’t everyone be there for the people they care about like I am? I suppose I’m just generally nice to the people I don’t know as well, but not to the extent that I am for close friends and family. I just have a nice disposition (generally, even though I can be very bitchy sometimes). Sometimes people take advantage, which really sucks, but usually if someone does me wrong once, I don’t forgive them, depending on what the situation is.
But anyway, I think that everyone should do the things that I do for the ones we care about. It only seems natural that people would act the way I do towards loved ones, because that’s just the way I am. I think that if more people did the kinds of selfless things I do, it wouldn’t seem as out of the ordinary.
Those are just my thoughts.
Comments (17)
People should be this way. It shouldn’t be an extraordinary thing, but unfortunately, it is. It’s sad, really.
But hey, keep leading by example and the people that see you may be inspired to do what you do.
It’d be nice, but a lot of people tend to focus moreso on their momentary desires and needs.
You’re a good person, pretty girl. It’s people like you that make the world a better place.
agreed. kindness goes a long way and it’s the small things that are most remembered. There needs to be more of you in this world, so keep spreading the kindness =)
People should be selfless, I agree with you, people should do the things you do. It unfortunate that people don’t however. Good post, and just remember, the past is the past — you’re a good sister today… HUGS.
Too bad people don’t know their neighbors anymore.Where I grew up, the neighbors were practically family too.
For some, finding that balance between nice and pushover can be hard.
My future hubby is this way – one of the many reasons I hung on to him! It’s people like you and him that keep my faith in humanity intact.
I find it hard to keep a good balance of being selfish and selfless, but I’m definitely trying to be more conscious about it. People are just so dazed and wrapped up in their own things to be bothered with how hard someone else might have it.
Don’t change, anyway.
Very nice of you to do those things! I guess not many people are like this but I have a friend who is very self-less, humble, and just a complete gentleman (his fiancee is lucky to have him lol).
Anyways, hope all is well with your sister and that she returns home.
Life is empty when you live for yourself. That’s probably why so many people are so unhappy.
You’re right, it’s almost impossible not to get taken advantage of sometimes when you’re being kind and giving people the benefit of the doubt. But if you can keep doing it and it doesn’t harm or embitter you, that’s good karma coming your way, sister.
You ARE a good person, but that’s not so common.
@TakingxOverxMe - <_ What she said. My hubby & I are the same, a lady lacked $20 for her grocery bill & we said just add hers to ours, ppl acted like we had raised the dead.
I agree!!
I’m that way for those I love and if you love someone such actions should be a given. That’s usually how I measure how much I mean to someone, you know, if they’re there for me in that kind of way.
It is hard to say how all the things balance out. People can pick one thing that happened and still all the good things still shine out.
People should not ignore the whole package just because of a few flaws.But let me contradict myself about what I just said, that some of the flaws take a while to overlook. Those that skip over them and find the few gems that override them are also winners.
It was a bit of a tough blog to write but I am glad you wrote it.
I definitely see your point. You’re right!