November 24, 2010
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Are you fucking KIDDING me?!?!
Okay, so a day or two ago, I saw a post on the front page, and it said “Why women should cheat” and I didn’t click on it because I thought it would be a ridiculous waste of time.
Have you read this post??
Okay, let’s clarify something. There’s a difference between being in a committed relationship and being in an open relationship. Committed means there’s absolutely no one else. An open relationship is when two people decide that it’s okay to see other people (I’ve tried this… and nope, didn’t like it). This, in fact, is not called cheating when you’re with more than one person in an open relationship.
Anyway.
“From bromances to concubines, men have always been comfortable getting what they need from multiple people, and society has always been supportive of their ability to do so.” Okay, what does this even mean? Yes, everyone gets different things out of different kinds of relationships. This is normal, and it doesn’t mean that someone is cheating, unless it IS cheating (if you know what I mean). This statement from the writer makes no sense.
“With regards to women, however, there is no culture that seems to have truly embraced women being unfaithful.” Annnnnd, since when have cheating men been accepted by culture and society? I must have missed that memo, because generally cheating is NOT acceptable for men or women.
“But perhaps we’ve been looking at this all wrong. Women are very emotional creatures, whereas men really are not. Women need to be nurtured in many ways and have various needs that have to be met. The modern woman feels the urge to nurture a man and be needed, but she also wants to feel independent, sexy, wanted. She wants to be, at once, the wife and the fantasy.
Realistically, it is very difficult to find a man that can cater to all of these needs. And even if he could, he would be exhausted. This results in women who are always somewhat unsatisfied by their relationships because they are never going to get everything that they want, because in reality what they want is illogical.”
The entirety of these two paragraphs is astonishing. First of all, the writer contradicted herself by saying that women need to be nurtured, and then states that women want to be independent. So it sounds like this person is very high maintenance, and can’t decide what she wants. Do you want to be nurtured or do you want to be independent?? You can’t be both. This person is also very selfish. A relationship requires sacrifices on the part of both parties, and no one is always going to get what they want. So that means you run out and cheat on your SO?! How childish and immature to even think that way. Obviously you’re not ready for a committed relationship.
“In order for women to be satisfied in the most perfect way, perhaps it is best for society to consider accepting the idea of infidelity in women with the same cavalier attitude that they would a man. Women are far more complex and needy than their male counterparts, so why should it be wrong for an intelligent, grounded woman to simply say: “I have many needs, not all of them can be met by one person, so I’m going to share myself with several people?”"
The writer is giving women a VERY bad name here. How shallow and selfish can one person be??
Posts like this DO NOT deserve the front page. I have more to say on this horrid post, but I can’t think straight because I’m so appalled.
Bottom line: Cheating is NOT OKAY, no matter WHO it is!!!!
Comments (12)
“If you love something set it free. Just don’t be shocked when it comes back with herpes.” -Chuck Palahniuk
Yeah, I hated the article. I didnt even read it cause I knew it was shit.
I didn’t even bother reading that post, I knew it was going to be retarded. Some people are so ignorant it’s sad.
lol, you should read MY comment to that person on that post.
hmmm…. yeah. I totally agree with you. Yet I see an add at the side of this blog that says “Looking for an affair”. When will this stuff end. It has cost me dearly. I feel awful for those I’ve hurt. And now that I’ve quit being one of those “men” it still hurts them and has now wounded me deeply that I found a serious relationship and lost it from past “affairs”. Yes, we men need to grow up and you women need to stay just as “single man” minded as you are.
I’m trying to make sense of the article. She seems to argue that because guys have bromances (which despite the name aren’t actually romantic in nature) and concubines (which women also have) that they are having all of their needs met, so a woman should have several sexual partners in order to have her needs met? That doesn’t make any sense, as bromances tend to not be sexual in nature. The person writing the article sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too, but it just doesn’t work that way.
There are not enough words for how ridiculously stupid that is…
Simply, this post sounds to me like a kid saying “well he did it too!” lol.
Men apparently acceptably cheating (which by the way I was completely unaware of) does not make it okay for women to cheat. What idiocy! Good response.
I read that bullshit post also. Whoever wrote it is a fucking moron I figure. Since when have men been allowed or feel it’s normal to use women, or any person for that matter? I must be hanging out with strange people because I don’t know any that do this. Maybe the author of the post was on cheap acid when they wrote it. It sure as fuck doesn’t make any sense to me.
there are a lot more posts that don’t deserve the front page, lol, we are powerless, the xanga population speaks, and generally it’s the same 5 people no matter what they write@! what to do?
what the fuck is wrong with people
Datingish and the ish sites are just trashy.
Cheating is socially unacceptable in our society. But worldwide there are many situations where men and women do not get treated socially in the same way. In some cultures it is accepted that men should have multiple partners and women should not. And in these situations is it actually cheating. The wives look the other way and tolerate the double standard for many reasons. Or perhaps they would be considered open but I don’t think they are “open” like it would be in Western Culture.