April 25, 2010
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Memorial Service
13 years ago, my dad and this lady, B, met through a dating service. They didn’t date for very long when they decided they would make better friends. Well, this wasn’t a mutual decision. B will always love my dad romantically, and my dad loves her like a friend. And so, they’ve been best friends for 13 years.
She had 2 sons, and 1 lived in Texas, T. He’s always had a lot of health problems. He had diabetes, kidney problems, blood clots all the time. He was in the hospital again and not doing well, so B and her son J, J’s daughter E and B’s grandson from her daughter (daughter is P, grandson is D) drove down to Texas a month ago. 3 weeks ago, he passed away. They had a funeral and memorial service in Texas, and yesterday they had a memorial service here for friends and family in MN.
This isn’t the only thing B has been through lately. Almost 2 months ago, B’s daughter P was drinking. When P drinks, she gets belligerent and she was being mean to her boyfriend. B’s son J told her to leave her boyfriend alone, and they got into a physical fight. J said enough and went out onto the deck, but P grabbed a knife and stabbed him in the arm. But, she stabbed his artery. He was bleeding all over the place, and P’s son, D, held pressure and called 911. They got J to the ER and he went immediately into surgery. They had to cut his arm all the way down to the wrist (she stabbed him in the tricep, wherever the artery is in that area) to repair. He lost so much blood his muscles were drained of blood and severely damaged.
So, B has a daughter in jail, charged with first degree assault. She plead guilty and I think she got 3 years, and some amount of probation after that. She has a son who passed away, and another son that almost died.
Understandably, she was very upset yesterday, and it broke my heart to see her like that. B is a very sweet and caring lady. I held back tears a few times, watching her. They had a photo album of pictures with her deceased son at the funeral, and it was very hard to look at.
I’ve been through a lot in my life, but death isn’t something I’ve had to deal with much, and no one close to me. My great-grandmother passed away a year and a half ago, but we weren’t close. I know death is a part of life, but I couldn’t imagine having to bury my child. That would be so heartbreaking.
Life is fragile. Don’t take it for granted. And don’t take your loved ones for granted. Some day, they won’t be there.
Comments (11)
Reading what P did made my stomach queasy. That is really sad to hear. Wow, I can’t even imagine how that mother must be feeling.
Yes, life is very fragile and it is really amazing how we do take it for granted. Things can go by so fast…
I am sorry to hear about this. I hope you are okay. And that she and her son can heal from this.
That poor woman! I just want to hug her right now. Going through all that has got to be extremely rough. =(
My grandparents lost their only son last July. At the funeral, my grandmother told me that she just felt empty inside. She left us in January, 6 months to the day of when my uncle passed away. Some wounds that are given to us on earth will never heal, but I have faith that one day we will be scar free.
“Life is fragile. Don’t take it for granted. And don’t take your loved ones for granted. Some day, they won’t be there.” Very true. It is sad that people need to learn of things like this to realize it.
It is very difficult to lose a loved one. I could not imagine losing a child; I think it would break me.
thats sad
That is sad and reminds me I need to write about some of the family things that went down while I was away.
I’m sorry =(
Unfortunately, our world has changed. It just appears to me that the family unit isn’t as important to others as it should be. Family should rank right up there at #1.
That’s so sad. I feel really bad for her
It is so awful to watch people in such pain.
It’s soooo easy to take life for granted. I lost a friend in a very random and violent way last year…It was definitely a wake up call.