It's been a very long time since I've written a RE post..but I read this one
, and to be honest I got kind of irritated. Everyone's entitled to their opinions, but I think there are some fundamental things wrong with this.
There's more to love than being physical, so much more. I don't think you can truly appreciate or value someone unless you know their mind. Know their thoughts, what they think, how they feel about things. It's important to know what they value, what they think is important. How can you truly love someone for who they are unless you know these things? And how do you find them out? By talking. Lots and lots and lots of talking. Talking about everything, in a depth that you rarely share with anyone else. Telling someone your deepest thoughts. You can do this over the internet. Texting, calling, Skype, Yahoo, you name it...there's so many ways to communicate.
I think that people greatly undervalue this aspect. This is why people don't work out as a couple. People get so wrapped up in the physical and sex, they don't pay attention to the most important part of it all. How can you live with someone if you don't communicate? It's important to know if you're even of compatible MINDS before you get physical with each other. Otherwise, what's the point? To satisfy a sexual, physical urge? What's the value in that? I think that's the wrong way to go about it.
Don't get me wrong, sex is important too. If you're long distance, there's sexting and phone sex until you meet. But I think it's less important than getting to know someone in the deepest of ways. Yes, it is possible to fall in love over the internet. I don't fall in love with the physicality of a person. I fall in love with their mind, the way they think, their thoughts, their intellect. I could be physically attracted to someone, but I could never be with someone who's on a lower level than I am intellectually. I just couldn't. I need stimulating and engaging conversation. That's what I fall in love with. And, I've fallen in love that way both over the internet and in person. Sexual attraction is important...but if you have it while you're having phone sex and sexting, it will be there in person.
I have known many couples who have fallen in love over the internet and they are still together. My uncle met his wife over the internet about 12-14 years ago and they are still together, with 2 kids. Kylie and Fred met on Xanga, and they are still together, for 5-6 years now, happily married, with a child on the way. Summer and Jim met on Xanga, they are engaged and they have a child on the way.
If you think love over the internet is merely expressed by emotes, you're sadly mistaken. There's a deeper communication there than you could ever imagine. There's something about getting to know people a lot more before you have sex, and I think more people should do it. I think there would be a lot less heartbreak in the world.